During this Valentine’s Day, let’s talk about one of the questions I was often asked.
What kind of voice is sexy?
I often hear people say, “I have a sexy voice when I’m having a cold, because it’s low.” Some say people who smoke, especially ladies, have a sexy voice. That can not be wrong enough. Smoking causes permanent damage to your vocal folds (vocal cords) and your voice can only get worse while you age. In both cases, it’s an unhealthy voice.
What we do find though is people often link a sexy voice with a low pitch (the highness and lowness of your sound) Pitch does play a part. A high-pitched voice is shrill and not pleasant to listen to. No surprise when people think George Clooney and Angelina Jolie have a sexy voice as both of them speak with a low-pitched voice.
However, low pitch does not necessarily lead to a sexy voice. You can press your voice down to lower level, but if it is not powered by enough breath (More on breathing: Every Breath You Take) and resonated in all your five cavities (your chest, your voice box, your throat, your mouth and your nose), it’s not going to sound genuine but manipulated.
What makes a sexy voice?
1. Depth
To have a sexy voice, what you really need is depth in your voice, rather than a low pitch. A voice with depth is rich in quality. It is with three dimensions and like a warm cozy room wrapping you inside. A deep voice sounds mysterious, arousing your curiosity and leaving you want to explore more about that deep voice and the person who owns it.
2. Resonance
Resonance is the amplification and intensification of your sound by means of vibrating in your five cavities. A well-resonated voice is pleasant to listen to and filled with magnet. It is a must for a voice to have depth. A voice that is not fully resonated is thin, one dimensional and dull, let alone sexy. (More on resonance: Find Your Voice Resonance)
3. Emotion
When you speak, you must feel what you speak. If you do not feel the feeling, don’t expect your loved one could feel it. You’ll leave an impression of being either dull or unauthentic. You won’t impress or touch the one you like or love. Emotion is the key to showing your passion and sensuality. Try the exercise to say the sentence “I love you” in different emotions: indifferent, doubtful, and passionate. You should notice the difference in your voice, as well as your facial expressions.
The purpose is not to have a sexy voice, but to have a voice that’s confident, in every area of your life.
