Two of my recent clients, when sharing with me their goals for the coaching sessions, said,
“I don’t want to sound uncertain when speaking up.”
“I don’t want to be nervous.”
“I don’t want to sound too young.”
Telling yourself what you don’t want will never help you get what you want. Your brain is not clear of your direction and you’ll get stuck at where you are. Instead, phrase what you want to achieve in a positive way,
“I want to sound certain / sure / confident when speaking up.”
“I want to be calm / confident / energetic.”
“I want to sound mature.”
And you’ll much closer to what you want to achieve.
